Mastering Networking: Build Powerful Connections That Matter

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Last week I attended the innagrual BSCN event, it was a great event, and I met many wonderful people, however it was surprising how many people admitted, they don’t really know how to network.

I get it walking into a networking event can feel like stepping onto a battlefield—business cards flying, awkward small talk, and people scanning name tags like they’re looking for hidden treasure. But here’s the truth: networking isn’t about handing out as many cards as possible; it’s about making real connections that actually lead to something.

So, how do you stand out and turn brief conversations into powerful professional relationships? Let’s break it down.

1. Set a Game Plan

Before you walk in, ask yourself: Why am I here? Are you looking for new clients? A business partner? Job opportunities? Knowing your mission keeps you focused and prevents you from aimlessly wandering the room.

2. Do Your Recon

Most events provide an attendee list or speaker lineup. Take five minutes to research key people who interest you. Find a common ground—a shared connection, an industry trend, or even a recent achievement—so you have an instant conversation starter.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Say Hi

Everyone at a networking event is there for the same reason—to meet new people and create opportunities. Don’t hesitate to walk up and introduce yourself or join an ongoing conversation. Taking the initiative to start a discussion shows confidence and makes you stand out. Most people appreciate someone making the first move, so embrace the opportunity to connect.

Topics to Avoid

While it’s important to break the ice, be mindful of steering clear of dull, overused topics like:

The weather
Traffic complaints
Generic “So, how about this event?” comments
Anything negative that might drain the conversation’s energy

Instead, focus on topics that spark enthusiasm and deeper discussion.

A few ways to break the ice:

Approach with a smile. People naturally gravitate toward friendly energy.
Use an open-ended question. Try asking, “What brought you to this event?” or “What’s the most exciting thing happening in your industry right now?” rather than relying on predictable small talk.
Join existing conversations. If you notice a small group talking, listen for a moment and then contribute something relevant.
Be prepared for solo attendees. Many people attend networking events alone, and they’ll likely appreciate someone striking up a conversation.

Networking isn’t just about exchanging information; it’s about making a real connection. By being the person who initiates, you create a strong first impression and set the stage for meaningful conversations.

4. Master the Art of the First Impression

First impressions are everything, and you only have a few seconds to make yours count. Here’s how to make a lasting impact:

Start with confidence. Walk in with good posture, a firm handshake (if appropriate), and a warm smile. A handshake should be firm but not overpowering—avoid a limp grip or an overly aggressive squeeze. If a handshake doesn’t seem natural in the moment, a friendly nod or verbal greeting can work just as well.
Make strong eye contact. Maintaining eye contact conveys confidence and attentiveness. Balance it naturally—too little can seem uncertain, while too much might feel intense.
Craft an intriguing introduction. Instead of saying, “I’m a marketing consultant,” try something like: “I help small businesses grow by making their marketing as powerful as big brands.” Make it concise, value-driven, and easy to remember.
Be mindful of body language. Maintain open posture, nod in acknowledgment, and avoid crossing your arms—open and engaged body language makes you more approachable.
Use the power of mirroring. Subtly matching someone’s tone and energy level creates instant rapport and makes them feel more connected to you.
Don’t just introduce yourself—ask engaging questions. People love talking about themselves. Try, “What inspired you to get into your industry?” or “What’s been the most exciting part of your work lately?” This not only keeps the conversation flowing but also makes you more memorable.

5. Ditch the Sales Pitch—Start a Real Conversation

Nobody likes feeling like they’re being sold to. Instead of diving into what you do, flip the script—ask about them. Here are some powerful questions to get people talking:

What’s the most exciting project you’re working on right now?
What’s a challenge in your industry that doesn’t get talked about enough?
How did you get into this line of work? What’s your backstory?
If you could give your younger self one piece of career advice, what would it be?
What’s the best business book or podcast you’ve listened to recently?

Interesting People Are Interested in Others

One of the best ways to be memorable is to be genuinely curious. The most captivating people aren’t those who talk the most—they’re the ones who make others feel heard. Show real interest, listen actively, and ask follow-up questions that dive deeper into their responses.

6. Be the Person Everyone Remembers

People remember stories, not resumes. Facts and job titles blend together in a sea of introductions, but a compelling story sticks. Share an interesting anecdote about your work, a client success, or even a funny networking fail. It makes you relatable and unforgettable.

Use humor or a lesson learned. A well-timed joke or a self-deprecating story about a past mistake makes you more human and approachable.
Make it personal. Share something that connects emotionally—why you got into your field, a turning point in your career, or an unusual experience.
Engage with enthusiasm. Energy is contagious. If you’re excited about what you do, others will be too.
Practice storytelling. Keep it concise but impactful. Think of how you’d tell a great story at a dinner party—engaging, but not overwhelming.

People remember stories, not resumes. Share an interesting anecdote about your work, a client success, or even a funny networking fail. It makes you relatable and unforgettable.

7. Give Before You Get

Want people to actually want to follow up with you? Offer something of value first. A book recommendation, an introduction to someone in your network, or a quick tip related to their work—all of these create a reason for them to stay connected.

Be generous with connections. If you know someone who could benefit from meeting another attendee, make the introduction.
Share insights. If someone mentions a challenge, offer a relevant resource, tool, or strategy that could help.
Send a useful follow-up. If you discussed a topic in-depth, send them an article or podcast link related to the conversation.

8. Use Social Media to Stay Top of Mind

Networking doesn’t end when you leave the event. Connect on LinkedIn with a personalized message, comment on their content, and keep the conversation going digitally. Being visible keeps you relevant.

Engage with their posts. A simple like or thoughtful comment on their content keeps you in their mind without being intrusive.
Share valuable content. Posting industry insights, takeaways from the event, or articles relevant to your new connections positions you as a thought leader.
Use LinkedIn messaging wisely. Instead of generic check-ins, follow up with something personal or relevant to your past discussion.

9. Pick the Right Events for YOU

Not all events are worth your time. Be strategic—attend the ones where your ideal customers, partners, or collaborators will be. Sometimes, small, niche events are more valuable than massive conferences.

Define your networking goals. Are you looking for clients, partners, mentors, or investors? Choose events accordingly.
Research the attendee list. If possible, find out who will be there and prioritize key connections.
Diversify your event types. Mix large conferences with smaller, targeted meetups for more meaningful conversations.

10. The Fortune Is in the Follow-Up

A generic “Great to meet you” email won’t cut it. Reference something from your conversation, suggest a coffee meetup or virtual call, and keep things natural. The goal is to build a real relationship, not just another LinkedIn connection.

Follow up within 48 hours. Strike while the memory is fresh.
Be specific. Mention details from your conversation to make your message feel personal.
Offer a next step. A casual coffee chat, a webinar invite, or a helpful resource keeps the relationship growing.

11. Play the Long Game

Networking isn’t about instant results—it’s about planting seeds that grow over time. Keep in touch, offer value, and build genuine relationships. The more you invest in your network, the more opportunities will come your way.

Check in periodically. A simple “Hope you’re doing well!” or “I saw this and I thought it might help you.” message keeps the connection alive.
Support their work. Congratulate them on achievements, share their content, or refer them when possible.
Be patient. Some relationships take time to yield opportunities, but consistent effort pays off in the long run.

The key to networking success? Be real, be memorable, and always bring value. The more interested you are in others, the more interesting you’ll be to them. Next time you walk into an event, don’t just collect contacts—create connections that actually matter.